“Hey Honey, Ive been thinking for some time now and I think i need some space”
Those dreaded words from your partner!! It hits you like a ton of bricks!!
Maintaining space in a relationship is a delicate balancing act. Too little privacy can make you feel smothered, while too much can make you forget what your significant other looks like. On the one hand, you probably realize that personal space is a reasonable request, but that may not stop you from feeling threatened if your partner asks for it. If you’re pondering what to do when your partner says they need their space, take a look at these suggestions. They’ll help you develop a relationship that’s close and comfortable.
What to Do After Your Partner Says They Need Space: Maybe you hit it off on your first date and you forgot to pace yourself.
If you’re already having that conversation, you may be able to end your relationship gracefully or take it to another level.
1. Stay calm. It’s natural for relationship troubles to trigger doubts and fears. Remember that you’ve handled conflicts in the past, and you can figure out how to respond to this one.
2. Listen closely. Show your partner you care by giving them your full attention. Focus on what they’re saying instead of thinking about your next response. Reserve judgment, and try to take in verbal and nonverbal messages.
3. Clarify the situation. Space can be a vague concept until you translate it into specific terms. Does your partner want to move out or just spend an occasional weekend apart?
4. Play fair. Once you’ve negotiated your mutual boundaries, honor your agreement. Resist the temptation to check in with each other if you’re giving up texting or calling for a week.
5. Accept responsibility. Your feelings and expectations matter too. Decide whether this is an opportunity to renew your commitment or part amicably. If you’re still on the same track, working together to resolve your differences could help your relationship grow.
How to Avoid Having Your Partner Say They Need Space:
Successful couples tend to know how much me-time they require. In fact, having enough space in a relationship is almost twice as important to a couple’s happiness as having a good sex life, according to researchers at the University of Michigan’s Institute for Social Research.
1. Make your own friends. It’s important to have relationships outside your relationship. Have fun hanging out with friends, and stay in touch with your family. It’s fun and helps you to take some pressure off of each other.
2. Pursue your interests. You can be compatible without sharing a passion for orchid shows or go-cart racing. Encourage each other to do what you love.
3. Look inward. Solitary hours are an opportunity for reflection and spiritual practice. Allow each other to enjoy some silence.
4. Build trust. Your sense of security increases when you know you can count on each other even when you’re out of sight. It’s wonderful to know that your significant other has confidence in you.
5. Own your decision. Enjoy those Friday nights or Tuesday afternoons that you go off on your own. Come back with an interesting story instead of wasting time feeling guilty.
6. Nurture your connection. Of course, your life as a couple requires some effort too. Let your time apart remind me you why you want to be together. Create rituals that show you care, like leaving each other love notes or emptying the dishwasher when it’s not your turn.
7. Consider counseling. If you worry about becoming dependent or being abandoned, childhood issues could be involved. Talking with a therapist can help you heal and move on.
The bottom line is that space doesn’t have to be scary. Strengthening your identity as an individual enriches your life as a couple.
Now say it aloud and with passion